The 7 Pillars of Self-Care

INTRODUCTION

The 7 Pillars of Self-Care is a holistic system designed to help women create aligned, authentic, and abundant lives.

Self-Soothing vs Self-Care

Self-soothing: short-term, get over the hump in the moment, always feels good
Self-care: caters to long-term health and well-being, sometimes involves self-control and self-discipline

Examples of self-soothing:

bubble baths
doom scrolling
comfort foods
binge watching shows, movies

The 7 Pillars of Self-Care:

Spiritual Alignment
Emotional Intelligence
Mental Clarity
Self-Awareness
Physical Fitness
Divine Spaces
Healthy Relationships

Each pillar coordinates with a chakra and a sound frequency. Learning how to realign the chakras and meditating to the sound frequencies can also be part of your self-care practice. This article by Healthline will help you understand the chakras. You can also hear different sound frequencies using this free online tone generator.

Pillar 1

SPIRITUAL ALIGNMENT

Step into your rightful place as the co-creator of your life.

Chakra: Solar Plexus
Sound Frequency: 963 Hz

4 Modes of Consciousness by Oren Harris

Victim Mode
Hustle Mode
Flow Mode
God Mode

Pillar 2

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE

Keep your divine masculine and divine feminine energies in balance.

Chakra: Heart
Sound Frequency: 396 Hz

Masculine Energy

Divine: Action-oriented, assertive, protective
Toxic: Controlling, aggressive, dismissive

Feminine Energy

Divine: Compassionate, nurturing, creative
Toxic: Manipulative, passive-aggressive, needy

The 5 R's of Emotional Intelligence in Conflict

Rule: Which energy has authority?
Reflect: Think before you speak, weigh the options, consider your desired outcome
Respect: Keep your ego out of the equation
Repair: Own your mistakes, set boundaries
Resolve: Identify and agree to a solution

Pillar 3

MENTAL CLARITY

Recognize, understand, and organize your thoughts.

Chakra: Third Eye
Sound Frequency: 714 Hz

Signs that you lack mental clarity

Unhealthy stress levels, anxiety, nervousness
Difficulty focusing, communicating, or being productive
Headaches

Boosting brain health

Herbs: Lion's Mane mushroom, ashwagandha
Vitamins: A, B complex, D
Minerals: Magnesium
Supplements: Omega 3
Teas: Matcha, green tea, golden milk
Foods: Salmon, eggs, berries, leafy greens, and nuts
Habits: Staying hydrated, getting proper number of sleep
Activities: Journaling, talk therapy, rest (short breaks), reset (long breaks)

Pillar 4

SELF-AWARENESS

Get clear on your identity.

Chakra: Solar Plexus
Sound Frequency: 528 Hz

Questions to ask yourself

What do I value?
What motivates me?
What triggers me?
What are my strengths and weaknesses?
What do I do enjoy?
What do I need in my relationships?
What are my boundaries?

Pillar 5

PHYSICAL FITNESS

Honor and restore your body.

Chakra: Root
Sound Frequency: 147 Hz

5 Elements of Physical Fitness

Nutrition
Movement and Exercise
Sleep, Rest, and Reset
Physical Therapy and Rejuvenation
Hygiene

Pillar 6

DIVINE SPACES

Take pride in the spaces you occupy.

Chakra: Sacral
Sound Frequency: 417 Hz

Keeping your spaces clean and organized can positively impact your mood, mental health, and energy. Areas that you need to improve in could reflect something that needs to be addressed internally.

Messy bedroom

Issue(s): overwhelmed, fatigued
Key Question: If my sacred space for rest feels chaotic, am I giving myself permission to slow down?

Digital mess

Issue(s): overcommitted, avoidance
Key Question: Am I avoiding decisions or distractions because I’m afraid to focus?

Laundry needs to be put away

Issue(s): low motivation, burnout
Key Question: Where in my life do I feel like I’m surviving, not thriving?

Dirty dishes piled up

Issue(s): neglecting yourself, disconnected from your needs
Key Question: Am I giving myself enough time and attention?

Cluttered areas

Issue(s): emotional buildup, personal growth
Key Question: What do I need to let go?

Pillar 7

HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS

Teach people how to treat you based on how you treat yourself.

Chakra: Throat
Sound Frequency: 639 Hz

Questions to ask yourself

Am I safe to fully and freely be myself?
Is there space for accountability and grace?
Do we have open, honest, and kind communication?
Are my boundaries respected or resented?
Do I feel energized and supported or drained and diminished?